Posted by SeattleWilly
I am always amazed when I meet a new, aspiring pick up artist and I’m asked the same fruitless question: “Can you tell me any good pick up lines?”
That is where the problem lies. Pick up lines don’t work. Let me repeat that so you understand this clearly:
Pick up lines don’t work.
Why? Pick up lines don’t work on women because they are socially programmed to detect them and have a built-in defense mechanism that prevents it. In fact, these defense mechanisms are actually subconscious most of the time. The term for this defense is often referred to as the “bitch shield”. An example conversation that illustrates this defense mechanism might go something like:
You: “Hi, what’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?”
Her: “I have a boyfriend.”
There are many web sites on the Internet loaded with all kinds of pick up lines, just waiting for some average frustrated chump to try out for his next rejection. When the guy fails to attract the female with his pick up lines, he usually chalks it up to some physical flaw he has that ensures he will never be attractive to women. He may continue this process until he finds a woman whose self-esteem is so low that she is attracted to anyone who pays her even the tiniest amount of attention.
This is an unfortunate pattern that happens every day to countless men. The truth is that approaching and attracting girls has very little to do with physical appearance. Most men will go their entire lives not knowing this, which is a sad but realistic fact. Attracting girls is about projecting the proper character and knowing how to approach them without being subjected to their first line defenses.
To understand this more clearly, you must understand the fundamental instincts when dealing with females: Survival and Reproduction. You see, when it comes to mating, women have more to lose than men do. First of all, women are the one's who become pregnant. Carrying a child for 9 months is no simple matter (not to mention the pains associated with birthing). During the time the woman is pregnant, she is physically programmed to look out for the survival of her baby. Her hormones change. Her desire for reproduction drops to a very low level (since she already has a seed planted), and her body undergoes physical changes. Most men would agree that a pregnant woman is not as sexually desirable as a woman who has not mated yet (although they will never admit this to the woman they have impregnated).
The second factor to consider is that raising a child requires a great deal of resources and time. Looking at this from an evolutionary perspective, men have typically been the resource providers in relationships. On the flip side, the woman historically spends her time nesting. This social contract has existed since man first came down from the trees and started walking upright. Of course, women are fully capable of providing for children and do so very often, but it is not an instinctual trait that they carry.
A man, on the other hand, can go from woman to woman spreading his seed without the instinctual fear of hurting their survival. It is true that men in our current society often fear conceiving a child with a woman, but it is a socially programmed trait. It is not necessarily a physical instinct that exists within them. To better understand this, you must learn the (general) equation:
- Women spend much of their lives favoring Survival over Reproduction (80% / 20%)
- Conversly, men spend much of their lives favoring Reproduction over Survival (80% / 20%)
This is why men tend to cheat more than women. It is a physically programmed instinct, but not an excuse that will win a man any forgiveness. This equation explains why men are forced to do all the approaching, and women get to do all the choosing. It also explains why men spend time trying to learn those magic words (i.e. pick up lines) to attract a woman, and why women their time dressing up, wearing make up and trying to smell nice. It is "survival of the fittest" at its very core.
So if you can understand and accept this equation, how do you take advantage of it? How can men benefit from this? You have to flip the equation and get women to chase you instead of you chasing them. Your efforts to chase women are going to be the least successful, especially if you use pick up lines. If you want to learn how to do this, pick up a copy of my book "The Player's Guide to Attracting & Seducing Beautiful Women", where I explain exactly how to do it based upon biological and social science.
Peace,
Seattle Willy
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Tags: pick up lines, attraction, confidence, survival instincts